My mother’s family got her engaged when she was 12 and when she was 14 she was released and sent to her husband’s house. She was not even fully young when she left her parents’ home. The dreams and aspirations of my mother’s youth would never be fulfilled. Feroza (pseudonym) says, “If you ask the truth, this (leaving at such a young age) was not even my father’s decision.” After marriage, my mother could not continue her education. Feroza is the youngest child of her parents i.e. the youngest among 14 siblings. He is studying in a university in Kabul, the capital of Afghanistan.
“My mother gave birth to 14 children at very short intervals,” says Feroza. My father was very cruel to my mother. My mother was totally incapable of giving birth to more than 14 children but my father completely ignored her sexual and physical problems and without any precautions like condoms or birth control pills to prevent pregnancy. Use, it continued.’
“As a result, my mother gave birth to 14 children and then she became sick.”
Feroza believes that although her father never asked her to discontinue her education, he “subjected my mother to extreme cruelty.”
“I am the 14th among my siblings and when I was born my mother was not even able to take care of me. I never got Mamata’s love.”
“Even though my mother has become a patient now, she still has to ‘obey’ my father,” says Feroza.
Is a woman’s body always ready to have sex?
Women’s rights activist and pediatrician in the UK, Dr. Avide Dehar, says that short intervals for breastfeeding mothers cause irreparable harm to their health.
He said that pregnancy in women for very short periods not only causes anemia in them but also chronic physical weakness, because during pregnancy and later at the time of childbirth, the mother uses up all the energy in her body. She sits.
She says that it takes six to eight weeks for a woman’s body to get back to normal after childbirth, and much longer for the mother to recover from a C-section (i.e. major operation). Time is required.
Women have different physiological functions. “Women’s hormones fluctuate during menstruation,” he says, adding that these monthly fluctuations in hormones can cause depression, fatigue, and low energy in the body, making women sexually inactive. But they become hesitant and their sexual desire may be more or less.
So, if the husband understands these changes in his wife’s body and behavior in time, he can establish better sexual relations with his spouse. The instability of hormones in women’s bodies means that they may not always be available or ready to have sex.
He added that breastfeeding mothers sometimes lose the desire to have sex temporarily due to fatigue, insomnia, and fatigue. On the other hand, the hormones that are at a high level during pregnancy gradually decrease after the birth of the child, and due to these ups and downs of hormones, some women suffer from depression after the birth of the child. I have less sexual desire.
Avide Dehar says that ‘in such a situation it is better for the men to understand these things and help their wives in the housework and help them take care of the child born so that the woman can spend the day time. Can sleep a little longer and relieve fatigue caused by hormonal changes.’
He said that even during menopause, the time when menstruation stops, women can experience hormonal fluctuations that men should be aware of. Menopause is not just the end of menstruation, but during this time women can experience anxiety, difficulty sleeping, difficulty concentrating and extreme fatigue. In such cases, headaches, increased muscle and joint pain, decreased desire for intercourse, vaginal dryness and pain, and excessive night sweats may occur.
“Forcing women to have sex in such a situation can be dangerous and can lead to vaginal rupture and bleeding, as well as severe psychological trauma to the woman, and the victim may need years of physical and mental pain to heal.” Treatment may be required.’
All men need to understand and know is that these fluctuations in hormones are not under women’s control and are in fact part of their body structure. And to get through these temporary health-related periods in a better way, they need the support of a specialist doctor as well as their husbands.
