Sex-related matters are still considered taboo topics in many societies, including Pakistan, which are considered ‘shameful’ to discuss.
It has been a very sensitive subject due to social, religious and cultural taboos. One such topic is the disease called ‘frigidity’ which can be faced by almost one in every two women in the world.
With the help of experts, we have tried to understand the possible causes and consequences of this disease.
What is frigidity?
It is a word used in common parlance, but it is also a definition of lack of sexual desire in women, which can also be said to be a lack of interest in physical and psychological pleasure during sex. Such condition can deprive the affected woman of sexual excitement during sex.
According to experts, due to this condition, women may feel guilty by declaring themselves responsible, so the term ‘orgasmic dysfunction’ is also used for this disease.
Jean-Paul, a clinical sexologist, says it’s also important to examine the social and cultural environment before discussing the disease.
Why frigidity is a taboo subject in pakistan?
Dr. Adrian Vanessa sees many patients who complain of lack of sex drive or sexual dissatisfaction.
She says that ‘in sexual freedom, women could not get equal status with men in which they consider sex as a means of entertainment.’
According to him, ‘Talking about frigidity means that a woman has to talk about her sex life, which is not easy (in many societies).’
“Often we see in the society that all responsibility for the sex life of a couple falls on the woman and if she complains of lack of desire for sex, it can become a problem.”
Jean-Paul says ‘Sex is a human need like food. And when it malfunctions, it means there is a problem somewhere. But people can be embarrassed by a question about it, so it’s considered a taboo subject that’s difficult to talk about.
What are the causes of frigidity?
The causes of this sexually transmitted disease can be physical as well as psychological.
Psychological reasons can include anxiety, sexual violence, and other reasons that cause feelings of anger or shame about sex. Apart from this, alcohol consumption, smoking or drug use can also cause it.
Dr. Angel says that ‘Arousal in a person can be related to age, educational qualification, religion, personality or the nature of relationship. It should be remembered that arousal is difficult to achieve at the beginning of sex, so when a patient comes to us, we say that this is a common problem and women may take a long time to get used to sex. That is why the feeling of shame usually takes over.’
Apart from age, physical health or mental and psychological health also plays an important role. If any of these things are affected, it can affect sex.
A woman who is going through such a condition may be undergoing psychological treatment or may be suffering from glandular problems during her period or it is also possible that her physical health may be causing her lack of desire for sex. You are facing the problem of.
What is the treatment for this problem?
There is no specific treatment for this problem as it depends on the causes.
If the problem is psychological, a psychologist or sexologist should be consulted, or both husband and wife can seek therapy.
Medications that are being used for a mental illness can also cause this problem.
Jean-Paul says, “Until now, no treatment has been discovered that can solve this problem.” However, I have developed a medicine from African plants that can help to some extent.
Dr. Adrian says, “There are other options for women who are experiencing a lack of interest in sex, such as massage or masturbation.” According to him, it is important that men and women recognize the importance of other means of sex.
He says that he talked to the patients about ‘how they can know their body and especially women can be able to get a sense of pleasure by recognizing different parts of the body.’
Cognitive behavioral therapy and sex therapy are used for patients experiencing such problems.
Dr. Vanessa says, “I do psychological treatment through cognitive and behavioral therapy. Many women find it difficult to express their sexual desires, so I help them gain confidence. The goal is to gain control over your body.
Does frigidity affect a woman’s or couple’s relationship?
This condition can lead to loss of confidence or even depression. For a woman, the loss of sexual pleasure is quite impressive and can lead to problems in relationships.
“When we’re at work, or with friends or family, and someone talks about their sex life, we’re often frustrated by the impact on work, on ourselves,” says Jean-Paul. But, it can affect your spouse and even children.’
“We see that many women neglect children because they feel lonely even though they are married but they are not enjoying the marriage relationship.”
According to Dr. Adrian, this condition creates problems in relationships. How can it be that a woman does not desire her husband, she does not feel pleasure in meeting with her husband? In such a case, the man may think that his wife is punishing him and thus the marriage may be in trouble.
Experts say that this condition can be defeated but it is necessary for the sexual partner to be patient and understanding who does not make the woman realize that the problem is in her but through communication when such symptoms appear. Try to find a solution to the problem.